Bea Arthur, 1922-2009Have you ever wondered to yourself, if you and your small group of friends or coworkers were the Golden Girls, who would be which Girl? Somehow, I have found myself in this situation multiple times in my life, with various circles of friends. This is a tricky game, because most people seem to want to be Sophia or Blanche. As my luck would have it, I have invariably been named the Dorothy of the group. Maybe it's because I'm tall and perhaps not the most feminine woman in the world. Maybe it's because I'm a little bit of a nerdy sourpuss rule-follower (sometimes). I like to think it's because I'm smart, quick with a biting witticism, and like to torment my mother with threats of "Shady Pines" (ok, maybe not that last one, but I think I might start).
At any rate, while I'm never particularly flattered to be considered the Dorothy of the group, at the same time I'm also 1. glad I'm not the Rose (which is probably how Dorothy would feel, too), and 2. okay with it, because for all her flaws, Dorothy Zbornak was one ass-kicking broad, in the best sense of the term.
Of course, I realize that Bea Arthur is not the same person as Dorothy Zbornak, but I can't help but believe that there is a lot of Bea in Dorothy, and if nothing else, Bea was the one who brought Dorothy to life. I can't think of a single character on television today who comes close to her realness. For smart, sassy women (and gay men) everywhere, Bea will always be an inspiration.
I'll miss you, Pussycat.